Feel Good About Life

Feeling good about your life involves just two parts. One is to learn to think about yourself in healthy ways. This is a learned skill, not something that a lucky few were born with. If you weren’t given the gift of self confidence and self esteem as a child, it’s up to you to manufacture it as an adult. This is a skill, not a talent.

The second part of feeling good about your life involves making things happen. That the opposite of giving your life over to circumstance. If you want something, set things into motion to make it happen - from losing weight to getting the perfect job - it’s all in your hands.

Are you feeling like life’s a struggle? Try these seven tips to help you feel good about life again.

1. Never stop questioning - how can I do this better, faster, easier, simpler? Get interested and curious about yourself and about others.

2. Accept your weakness. Everybody has weaknesses. Instead of spending your time and energy trying to "overcome", accept it, don’t make excuses for it, and find ways to make it work for you.

3. Always keep learning. The brain is a muscle just like any other, and it will stagnate if you let it. Learn something new every day.

4. Expect nothing; expect the best. Paradox? No. It just means that you don’t want to miss out on what’s wonderful in your life right now, while you spending all your time peeking around the next corner.

5. Plant the "seeds" that you want to grow. Many people are (figuratively) wondering where the roses are in their life, yet they spend all their time sowing corn. You reap what you sow. That’s just the way it is.

6. Swim with the current. Accept life. There are lots of things you can’t control. Don’t waste your time complaining about what you can’t control - the weather, the economy, other people. Do accept those things and work within the circle that is within your control.

7. Don’t wimp out. When the going gets tough -- and it will -- keep your head up and keep moving. Nobody ever won a race by quitting.

by: Kathy Gates

The Invitation

It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for and if you dare to dream of meeting your hearts longing.

It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love for your dream
for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon…
I want to know if you have touched the centre of your own sorrow
if you have been opened by lifes betrayals or have become shrivelled and closed
from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain mine or your own without moving to hide it
or fade it or fix it.

I want to know if you can be with joy mine or your own
if you can dance with wildness
and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
without cautioning us to be careful be realistic
remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself.
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
If you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see Beauty even when it is not pretty every day.
And if you can source your own life from its presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure yours and mine
and still stand at the edge of the lake
and shout to the silver of the full moon, Yes!

It doesn’t interest me
to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair
weary and bruised to the bone and do what needs to be done to feed the children.

It doesn’t interest me who you know or how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand in the centre of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away.

I want to know if you can be alone with yourself
and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.

by Oriah Mountain Dreamer

menurut aku buku ini mengajak kita untuk mengetahui hakikat cinta yg sebenarnya,.. mencintai secara sederhana,.. menerima pasangan for what he's dan bukan for what he have,.. walaupun aku gak mau muna kalo kita cuman a human being yg jauh dari kata perfect,.. but setidaknya kita tlah mencoba berusaha untuk menjadi org yg baik,.. org yg ikhlas untuk segala hal.